I can’t for the life of me remember where I picked up this piece of advice, but it has stuck with me: ‘you have to say ‘no’ lots of small times to make room for a bigger yes.’
The idea is this….you take your life and all the stuff it presents you. Find your priorities, dreams, the big stuff…see what its going to take to focus on them and then work out what you have to say no to for those other things to have space. Its not rocket science, but I guess that most of us live a fairly hectic and busy life and could all do with some realignment every now and again.
My problem is that I don’t find it easy to say no. I guess I’m not the only one, but its hard to say. Hard, but also crucial. I learned that again this week through a myriad of times where I said yes when the answer should have been no. Thing is, if we go on trying to be people pleasers it can get in the way of obedience to God.
This all might sound a bit cryptic…and whilst there is some big stuff I’m working out what my yes and no will be to some things, I’m really just talking about the stuff that needs to be shuffled about. The day to day stuff affects how we function not only in the day to day but on the bigger screen of our lives.
I think its James, speaking about our pledges, our yes and no, who puts it simply: let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’. There is no shame in either, just a need to ensure that our steps lead us to walk more clearly in the footsteps of Jesus.